Judgment just feels awful
If I’m doing the judging (yes, I’m human) or I feel like I’m being judged (yes, because others are human) it feels yucky.
We know how hurtful it can be to feel judged or how we all worry about being judged, it places us in this hierarchical relationship with someone who, in many instances, is our peer.
In this episode, we're going to open up your perspective on judgment and shine a new light on these ideas.
How to Stop Judging Others
Bring awareness to the situation: If you find yourself thinking about the choices others are making, consider where it’s coming from. Instead of pushing out negative energy on their choices bring in positive energy with curiosity and interest.
Make situational attributions not personal ones. Maybe the person is having a bad day, maybe they have no confidence and are making statements to overcompensate. Maybe they aren’t prepared at work because their infant daughter was crying all night.
Am I mirroring? There’s a number of research studies that prove what we judge in others are actually reflections of what we don’t like in ourselves. If we find someone’s parenting to be questionable, it usually means we aren’t feeling like we’ve got ours under control.
Own your own choices: If we have confidence in ourselves we don’t use judgment as a way to put other people’s choices, behaviors, or appearances down.
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Articles + Podcasts:
When we Judge Others’ We Judge Ourselves (article)
Snap Judgment Science (article)
Toxic People in Disguise, It’s Not Just Negative Nancy (article)
Ladies, Stop Knocking of Each Other’s Crowns (podcast)
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