Ladies, Stop Knocking Off Each Other's Crowns

We’ve all been around ‘her’, the woman who’s a friend, family member or co-worker that’s always knocking your invisible crown off your head. Sometimes it’s an overt gesture while other times it’s underhanded and sneaking.

Why don’t women fully support each other? 

In today’s episode, we’re going to give you our point of view on this, what you can do to be sure your crown stays on while keeping yourself in check to ensure you’re not the one doing the knocking.

Could they have a scarcity mindset? A scarcity mindset is when you have an inner belief that there is never enough. The behaviors of a scarcity mindset are fear driven, so you may spend everything you have when you get money for fear that you won’t get a windfall again (yes, completely opposite of what you would think which would be to save it).  You may criticize people or be afraid of change or relish other people’s failure.

There’s a ton of research and articles that talk about mirroring traits what we see in others that we hate are reflections of what we don’t like in ourselves.  It was Carl Jung said “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” This has been explored and explained by numerous psychologists and coaches, including Martha Beck and Psychology Today

How to manage ‘those’ women:

• When you are dealing with women who are constantly trying to swing at your crown...SWERVE.  You can bob and weave, don’t let their swats land.
  
  
• Be a detective. If you are dealing with one of ‘those’ women in your life, especially a boss or co-worker, start to really pay attention to what sets them off so you can stay ahead of the manic fallouts. 
  
  
• Use pacifying language. Play the parrot and ask the questions, “I just want to clarify what you meant by X.”  or  the famous parroting, “Is this what you meant when you said X?” 

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Toxic People (podcast) 

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